Tuesday, February 23, 2010

It's Not Plagarism if You Cite, Right?

So, I completely stole this from MckMama's blog, where she cited it from an article in the National Catholic Register by Matthew Archibold. No joke. I didn't write this. Not one word of it. Which is very odd, because I totally could have. Really. I just haven't yet. Maybe because I'm not all that eloquent hilarious with words. But anyhow. I'm citing my sources and having done all that, here we go!

Why big families are easier:

Patience. I never have to teach patience. My children know that I can’t drop everything for them if I have a baby in my arms.

Work Ethic. My children have learned to work because there are always chores to do in a small house packed with little messy lunatics. And they all learn quickly that sometimes they have to clean up a mess even though they didn’t make it.

Humility. My children have learned it’s not always their turn. They’ve accepted they can’t always get their way because other people have to get their way sometimes. They’ve learned that some children are better at certain things than they are.

Foreign language skills. You can learn a lot of Spanish by watching ten years of Dora the Explorer that you just can’t pick up in two. And now with the Diego spin off I’m practically fluent.

Laughter. The children have learned to laugh at the insane non sequiturs of younger siblings. They’ve learned that laughing just feels better when seven people are doing it along with you.

Competition. Do I really need to go into this? Everything is a competition in big families. The children compete over who reads faster, who drinks their milk faster, who gets to the bathroom first…etc. Everything is a competition and they’re all keeping score.

Balance. The floor of the front room of my home is a minefield of toys and childhood paraphernalia. Just walking through the room requires great skill and balance. I’m absolutely convinced my two year old will be a favorite for Gold on the balance beam in the 2016 Olympics. (She might have to lay off the cookies a little but I’ll deal with that later.)

Life isn’t fair. Sometimes you just give it to the baby because you want a little quiet. Not all the time. But sometimes.

Just say “No.” Being able to say “no” may be the most undervalued skill in this world. The need to be liked is pervasive. The need to be cool even more so. Having brothers and sisters teaches children to say “no” about 143 times a day. It’s a good skill.

Praying. They learn that nothing beats praying together as a family.

Nature/Nurture. Having many children has taught me that nature has a lot more to do with who my kids are than nurture. This is helpful, especially when your children misbehave you don’t have to feel bad about it. Just say “Stupid nature!!!” and blame your spouse’s genes.

Namecalling. You can occasionally call your child by the wrong name and still not be considered a terrible parent. They know who you mean just from your tone. Sometimes if you need something done you can call the wrong name and someone will still show up. That helps.

Spying. My children have learned that they can’t get away with anything. I have spies who look a lot like them who are willing to drop the dime on them for anything. Even at school I’ve got a child in just about every grade. If they do something I’ll hear. That keeps them nervous. And I like keeping my kids a little nervous.

Friendship. The children have many friends. They’ve got girly friends, crying friends, fun loving friends, consoling friends, and crazy friends. And they all have the same last name. And they’ll be there forever for each other. No matter what.

Love. I think my children have learned to love because there are others around them to love and who love them. I honestly can think of no better way to teach children to love than siblings.


4 comments:

Crystal M. said...

LOVE IT!!! Thanks for sharing!!
Hugs,
Crystal and Eva
PS can you repost your last comment on Eva's blog I hit reject by mistake, its late what can I say...LOL!

Shanda said...

That was wonderful! I love the lastone, teaching your child about love by having a sibling. I really enjoyed that....Thanks!

Grandmommy said...

So true. I'm happy to see Elysa take an interest in the health care profession. We need a Doctor in the family.

Suzi said...

I loved this too but you know what is funny to me?!? When people find out we have 4 children, you would have thought we told them we had 15! I think it is hilarious how people think 4 is a lot of kids. Wow. I want more, that might really shock a few folks. I do get a giggle at myself on occasion when I see someone out and think to myself, man they have a lot of kids, I count them and guess what, they have 4. Hehe. Sometimes I guess it depends on the sizes of the kids but to me, 4 is not a lot. I love having 4, would love to have number 5! The post is true though. Kids learn from eachother and who is more trusting, loving and patient than your siblings, most of the time anyway.